My best moment as a father and a husband
This event happened several days ago but it still makes me laugh, so its a sure indicator of a good post for my blog.
It was just an ordinary dinner at my house, just me, the two boys (5 and 3), and my lovely wife. The two boys are talking back and forth about what they are going to give mommy for valentine day. It was pretty cute to see them go back and forth trying to “one-up” each other. Eventually, oldest one settles on full size Hershey’s chocolate and the little one settles on his ring pop. It was a really sweet gesture because I know how much those two items mean to them. Full size chocolate bar is so valuable to my oldest because we rarely allow any candy in the house and when he does get one, it’s always the little baby sized ones. The ring pop is also the most treasured item for my youngest. It’s almost halfway eaten thus it is a “used” item. He guards it like a pit-bull, and it’s the only candy that has lasted this long because he only allows himself to get few licks/day before he packs it away for another day. So now, I just couldn’t just sit on the sideline and let this simply play out like this. After my boys made their final decision, I stand up and yell out, my valentine to mommy will be the bestest in the whole wide world!! I see the look on my kids face and you know they are getting nervous. “What are you gonna get mommy, daddy? asks the oldest. I boast bombastically, “I’m getting her a shiny new expensive Proform Tour de France training bicycle for Valentine’s Day, and it is sooooo expensive and sooooooo beautiful that nobody can get her anything better….HAHAHA!” Please keep in mind I am just playing around and my wife is a tri-athlete. I just know there is somebody getting ready to blast me with a hate mail for getting my wife a nice bicycle when my avatar shows how much I like bicycles, too. I promise you, my wife really loves this bike. So anyway, going back to the dinner table, my kids are in shock, devastated, and feeling hopeless. I don’t ever recall having a quiet moment at the dinner table like that…lol. You can clearly see my boys are worried sick to their stomach. I just had to take another jab again. I ask the young one, “Sooooo, what did you say you were gonna get mommy?” He replied, “It’s a secret, I’m not telling you.” LOL, I was balling in tears! Then I turn to my older one and ask the same question. He was in complete silence with facial signs of distress everywhere, I was actually getting worried he might start crying right then. He looked over to mommy, with the saddest puppy face, for some kind of miracle, hope, or sign that was clearly starting to dissipate from him. You can see the sadness in his eyes, worried his mommy would love him less because daddy’s gift is so much nicer, and knowing it was beyond impossible to match daddy’s gift. I wish I could have taken a picture of them looking at each other; it was one of the most beautiful things I’ve ever seen. Mommy didn’t say anything back, but I can tell she was getting all teary eyed, too. She understood what was going through his little mind and she understood he felt that way because of how much he loved her. My oldest truly loves mommy beyond anything in this world. I started getting little choked up because it was so sweet, beautiful, and innocent. Just when I think it won’t get any worse, my oldest finally starts to say something. He was very choked up and emotional as he was trying to say what was on his mind. He says, “Mommy, I’m gonna give you my heart for Valentine’s Day…” and he starts crying uncontrollably. That immediately sets off chain reaction of tears. My wife embraced my oldest, the kind of embrace only a loving & caring mother can give, and starts crying with him. I’m trying to hold back my tears, while my youngest is getting upset because he now understands he has the worst present for mommy…lol. My youngest is at an age where he realizes it stinks to be so little. He gets very frustrated at times when he knows what he want to do, but he just can’t accomplish it because…he is only three.
Everybody had wonderful dinner and everybody is feeling pretty good, so we just resumed our normal activity after dinner. Kids run off to play with their toys for next 30min while mommy and daddy catch up with day’s events at the dinner table. My oldest kept interrupting by asking us to spell “love”. What happened next was something words cannot describe, so I am not even gonna attempt to describe it. Please refer to Figure 1 below, mommy is the tall skinny one. He did that 100% all by himself, no help from anybody, from scratch. Its days like this where parenting has its greatest reward. This one day makes up for all the chaos, destructions, broken electronics, crying, fighting etc…, and whatever grief these kids will cause in the future. The little one hears all commotion going on and takes a break from his Thomas & friends to see what is going on. Realizing he is snuffed again, he is now DEMANDING somebody help him create an art project that will match what his older brother just did. Folks, when things get this cute, this fast, I cannot control myself. I start chasing these two rugrats around until they are cornered, then I give them a big giant bear hug to squeeze out whatever cuteness remains within them..lol.
I guess we all know who won the Valentine’s day challenge of 2012 🙂
My kid has Eczema, what now?
My oldest boy had really bad case of eczema when he was just an infant. Our pediatrician recommended we use all sorts of topical cream on him. For example, the one cream she recommended was called Fluocinonide cream 0.05%. I read the ingredient and it sure looks like something I do not want my kid getting dependent on. I’m probably being ignorant to modern pharmaceutical, but I’m all for letting human body deal with whatever comes its way, naturally. Long story short I fought tooth and nail against my wife and pediatrician and decided to treat him using something lot less potent. Wife and I agreed on dry skin cream labeled, “Eucerin Dry skin therapy Original” moisturizing crème. I lathered him up after every bath, every night, and completely replaced Fluocinonide cream. I knew it was probably tough on my boy because there were times when he would really flare up and complain about the rash. By this point I knew what his threshold for irritability was. I let him go long as possible with just Eucerin until it became really bad and I would add little bit of fluocinonide for instant relief. I kept up this routine for next 4 years with really positive result. I started noticing his body was getting more tolerant and his irritability threshold also got raised significantly. He would have fewer cases of bad outbreaks and these outbreaks eventually became smaller and smaller. I know his pain tolerance was raised because he would same same kind of breakout that used to bother him, but now he would just….take it like a man and not think of it. My oldest is 5 now and I no longer worry about his eczema. I should also add my current 3 year old was also diagnosed with eczema when he was an infant. I treated him the exactly the same way as my 5 year old, and he is already “cured”. I put cured in quotes because he does have some small level of breakout from time to time, but its nothing little Eucerin and pain tolerance can’t handle.
Children’s book review : Toto the cloud dog
This is my first children’s book review based on a great book I just read to my two boys, 5 and 3. My wife and I read plenty of children’s book to them but for some reason this one book stands out above all other books I’ve read to them. The book is called “Toto the Cloud Dog” by C. Nicholas and it’s on Amazon.com books. This book is interesting to me because it can be read in couple of different ways. Your kids will interpret it as a cute fluffy dog doing good deeds around the world. You will interpret it as something bit more serious. If you ever suffered loss of a family dog, or pet, this book will strike a chord with you.
My kids love this book because illustration is bright and characters are fun. Story starts out with Toto, the main character, being abused by a naughty kid. Toto gets rescued by a good boy who takes really good care of Toto. At some point Toto is struck with illness and is in pretty bad shape. What happens next is really interesting and there is a twist here. Your children will see it as Toto eventually getting better and helping out other animals around the world. Parents will realize Toto is dying while there is some “behind the scene” stuff going on with the higher power. Toto eventually do die and becomes an angel. I got really choked up here because I did lose a family dog some time ago and it was bitter sweet reading this book to my boys. So anyway, according to my interpretation, Toto becomes an angel and starts helping out other animals around the world.
I love the fact this book is written with a strong Christian value. If you are offended by Christmas, this book is not for you. I will definitely keep this book handy for the future. I want my kids to read it again, for the first time, when they are older. It will be interesting to hear their reaction when they realize what is really going on. Its intelligent writing, very thoughtful, and the author clearly loved his dog.
So in conclusion, this is a great book if you love dogs or you just love animals, and especially if you recently lost a loving pet.
I would like to award these books as being the best of the best children’s books for my kids,
1. Best classic children’s book category: All the Margaret Wise books.
2. Best behavior teaching book category: Rainbow fish
3. Best children’s dog book category: Toto the Cloud dog
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