no, No, NO!!! We can’t afford a family trip this year.
I am just so tired of having this conversation with my wife; I’m really losing sleep and productivity over it. Our 10year anniversary is coming up in couple of months and she cannot focus on anything else other surfing all the travel websites. We have a conference room setup in our house and we should be working-working, not surfing the web for vacation stuff. Kids are sleeping, and she knows all the to-do items that need to be addressed before we even discuss anything related to fun.
It all comes down to the fact I didn’t give her the wedding honeymoon that she wanted. I planned the honeymoon and I picked a quaint little town called Door County in Northeast Wisconsin. It was ideal because it was close to home and I started a new task at work that needed my attention, ASAP. It was a beautiful honeymoon and we have such beautiful memories from it. The whole honeymoon became a problem on our 1 year anniversary. She said, “You still owe me a honeymoon”. To that I said, “Its honeymoon everyday in our householdJ” But she wasn’t feeling it L So that forced me to take my 1st ever international trip out to Cancun for 7days. The 2nd anniversary was more of the same with the added, “That last resort was pretty bad”. So the 3rd anniversary we stayed in presidential suite that was big and lavish enough to house family of 10. Things were quiet until the 5th anniversary. Apparently I still owned her a honeymoon. She said all the other ones didn’t count because it wasn’t on an island. We ended up staying in a gorgeous hotel on the island of Cozumel for 14 days.
We now have 2 kids since the “last” honeymoon. I’m working on family budget, business budgets, project timelines, design reviews, business proposals, & renderings, and what do I get from across the table?…”Honey, when are you going to give me the honeymoon you promised”. I was so close to just blowing up at her. All I did was look at her and not say anything. She kept going on and on about how we needed a big family trip and how badly she wants to go to Hawaii or Europe for the honeymoon, which I still owed her. I took a deep breath and told her we can’t afford it this year. This is absolutely true because we have a double mortgage and our monthly spending has ballooned to 10 times what it normally should be. Yes, you heard that right, 10times!! The construction of the new house is draining all the money and I need to work more hours and days to make it all happen. Since acquiring the new property, I’m working 7 days/week and I’ve been going to bed between 12am-2am, everyday. I’m not whining or complaining here, I just want somebody to throw me a bone! But all I get is, you are too cheap, you are not participating in family activities, you still owe me a honeymoon, etc…
I feel like everything is so fragile right now, and my absence will cause a catastrophic collapse of all the intricate progress that I’ve been making for all the businesses and the new home. All I need to do is continue the same routine, eat same type of food, & same exercise for next 9 months, and everything will be fine.
Baby, I love you but WE CAN’T AFFORD A FAMILY VACATION TO HAWAII THIS YEAR!! Is there a different way to say this? because this conversation is ready to blow up if it doesn’t get resolved real soon. I’m definitely pushing my human limit everyday and stuff like this can really send any man over the edge…<sigh>